Are You Clear Or Are There Questions?

When building a long term romantic relationship, most women just want to be seen, loved and heard and honored. Most men are looking for respect, loyalty, fun and peace. What I’m discovering in today’s dating climate is that it’s very difficult for a man to meet a woman’s desires with his actions. Many men are struggling with consistency issues, understanding issues and general maturity issues. Many women are expecting a man to be intuitive enough to understand what her needs, desires and expectations may be. She is frustrated because the average man is not willing to be patient and peel back her layers. The average man is frustrated because the average woman doesn’t appear to know exactly what she wants or she appears as though she wants simple tangible things that may not matter to him at the end of the day. I want to encourage both men and women to seek a deeper understanding of one another. Many of us are missing out on beautiful matches because we simply don’t want to get in the trenches and tell someone how we feel, when something makes us uncomfortable or when we don’t agree with something. It becomes easier to just leave then to momentarily step on some toes and exercise honesty and transparency in a loving way. Yes, sometime we are wasting each other’s time because we are not being honest with ourselves and courageous enough to consider the other’s heart or feelings. Sometimes were sending the wrong signals or sometimes were sending false signals. It’s always so unfortunate how quickly men and women write each other off.  For that reason, we can easily damage each other. When we are addressing each other, let’s be more conscious that we are wired differently but that it doesn’t mean that we cannot learn to understand the other. The truth is that we need to walk more in love, consideration and grace. Get back to treating people the way that we would want to be treated—there is peace in that. Don’t be too proud to pause, reset and apologize. Lastly, be courageous enough to move on with someone in a space of clarity instead of a place of question. Ambiguous behavior hurts people and delays good things flowing to us.