Commitment and being committed is a concept that we hear a lot about and that most of us care about and still when it comes to our own daily lives and lifestyles commitment can be a principle we struggle with. So, what do you do to remain committed when you’re not feeling like what you’re going through is now worth your time and effort?
Understand that You’re Not Where You Started
That’s right, you’re not where you started even if you feel as though you’ve made no progress or have endured setbacks, you’re not where you started. Meaning that when you first started out the task you agreed to do was simply an idea from someone else’s mind to your ears or a promise made to someone to do something.
You had yet to work on it or know how working on it would turn out. So, even if you’ve only worked on the task for one day you now have an idea of what it feels like to start taking your time and effort so that you can complete whatever it is that you committed yourself to do.
And that means that there’s no one on the planet who can give you back the time you’ve spent doing the task. No matter how small the amount of effort or time is it’s already invested. And knowing that should inspire and motivate you to realize that if you quit, you’ll gain nothing in return for the sacrifices that you’ve already made.
And though it may seem like the simplest and easiest thing to do to avoid having to deal with the challenges you face, you’ll always wonder what if in the back of your mind. It’s far better to see the results of what following through looks like and feel like than to look back and have the uncertain feeling of should have, would have, could have, but didn’t and I can’t go back.
Recognize that Commitment Stretches You
So, instead of walking away empty handed and frustrated recognize that the commitment you’ve made is supposed to stretch you. Because it’s in the process of life situations challenging you to come out of your comfort zone that you’ll grow and increase your knowledge, resourcefulness, and improve your ability to endure adversity.
And the truth is sometimes we have no idea how resourceful and creative we can be because nothing as ever challenged us to do so and we’ve never taken the time to consider who we know or who we can align ourselves with to help us with what we don’t know.
It’s great to handle your commitments on your own, but sometimes we all need a helping hand. I’ll give you an example from my own life. As you know I wrote the book Recognize Him: Is He Dating YOU For Commitment? and along the way I experienced many issues with the book cover design that I kept trying to get and hire someone else to resolve.
And all because I felt and believed it would be better to have an expert work on it instead of having to learn a new software to produce it myself. Fast forward to this week and I will tell you that the issues with my book cover caused me so much frustration that I committed to figure out why it the formatting system rejected it and after reaching out to my network, I received 3 follow up responses and enough information to fix the problem myself.
Visualize Yourself Completing What You Started
So, what happen? I got tired of being sick and tired and realized as close as I am I’m not there yet, but I can see and believe I can be. I thought to myself surely this can’t be that difficult. Surely there’s an answer or a way to resolve my problem. And surely it shouldn’t take a lifetime to do so.
The question is are you committed to the process enough to say someway somehow the thing that I said I was going to do, I will do. If not, I encourage you to see yourself finishing what you started. I encourage to you think about how you will feel to finish what you’ve started.
And I encourage you to think about the first necessary step that you know you need or should do to help you get from where you are to the next step in the process. And notice I said to the next step in the process, not to the end goal in mind.
In case you’re wondering why – well it’s because sometimes we can cause ourselves overwhelming anxiety and stress when we think about all of what we need to do to finish at one time, especially if we don’t feel or know we don’t have all of what we need to get everything done.
Our mind and our mindset can have what sometimes happens to a computer system or an electrical grid – a system overload… And all that does is triggers a shutdown or explosion and that’s not something that you want.
So, the next time you say you’re committed to something or even someone remember that unless you’ve conqueror the tests and struggles that comes with commitment then you don’t know if you are or are not. But when the tests come it’s your mindset and perception about your ability and your capability to do what you said you would that will prove if you truly were committed after all.
~It’s easy to say that you’re committed to do something when it seems it’ll be quick and easy to do, however, commitment means that you’re going to follow through and find a way to do what you said despite any challenges you face and despite the feeling you may now have about doing what you said.~ Coach Sam
~EXALTED ROYALTY~ A C. E. SAM COMPANY