MOVING DBDA

Are You Moving for Him?

Today's blog post "Are You Moving for Him?" is inspired from the countless number of women who've told their stories of how they packed up their life to move for a man, only to find out he wasn't the man they thought he was and the relationship they thought they had didn't exist. ~When you're dating don't make dramatic decisions for someone who doesn't see or value you as necessary; otherwise, you'll end up discarded and disregarded~ Coach Sam

If you’ve met a guy or you’re talking to a guy or you’re dating a guy and you’re interested in moving to where he is – to uprooting your life to move to the city, to move to the place where he is to be closer to him…

Today I’m going to give you four reasons why you should reconsider.

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Number one he didn’t ask you to.

 

Listen I know sometimes, as ladies we’re really excited when we’re in a relationship and we’re happy that things are going well when they’re going well.

 

However, if the man that you’re dating – the man that you’re talking to – the man that you’re truly interested in did not ask you to move where he is that’s because he’s not considering that this relationship at this stage is long term. He doesn’t see that it’s really going the way you think that is going. So that’s the first thing he didn’t ask you to.

 

Number two he didn’t commit to you.

 

Now just because you’re dating this guy does not mean that he’s committed to you. So, when I say he didn’t commit to you I mean just that. He did not ask you to be his girlfriend. He did not ask you to be his fiancé. He did not express to you that he sees you as his future wife.

 

He’s not committed to you so if he’s not committed to you definitely should not want to make a life altering decision, such as moving to where he is when he does not see you as his wife or his wife material at this stage in the game.

 

Number three he does not show interest in you so.

 

When I say he doesn’t show interesting you doing that. When I say he doesn’t show interest in you doing that I mean you’ve expressed to him that you’re going to move to where he is and he didn’t seem excited about it.

 

He didn’t seem joyful about it. He didn’t seem happy about it. It’s just kind of like he’s shrugged his shoulders – like oh well do it if you want to.  If he’s not showing you any interest – you don’t see any interest from his verbal statements to you – in his nonverbal statements to you. It just seems like oh well type of attitude about you moving to where he is then clearly you should reconsider moving to where he is because he’s not interesting and you being in the city that he’s in.

 

And lastly, he didn’t say he would help you.

 

When you think about doing life with somebody, you should understand that again it’s a process and you’re building together. So, any man that you’re building with should at least volunteered to help you out if you’re coming to move to where he is.

 

But if you brought this subject up to him that you’re going to move to where he is and he doesn’t even volunteer to help you – that right there is a big red flag that this man is thinking to himself this lady doesn’t realize that I don’t see her the way that she sees me.

 

So, I encourage you to pay attention to those four things the fact that he didn’t ask you he didn’t commit to you he didn’t show interest and he did not offer to help you.

 

Because if you’re not paying attention to those things, you could very well uproot your life – make a life altering decision to move to where he is and the fact of the matter is that you shouldn’t do that.

 

~When you’re dating don’t make dramatic decisions for someone who doesn’t see or value you as necessary; otherwise, you’ll end up discarded and disregarded~ Coach Sam

~EXALTED ROYALTY~ A C. E. SAM COMPANY

 

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