Wasteful is related to a person, action, or process and defined as using or expending something of value carelessly, extravagantly, or to no purpose. So, let’s talk about wastefulness today. Will you let me challenge you to think about how you conduct yourself in dating? Will you let me challenge you to think about how you act and react as it relates to your habits? And equally important will you let me challenge you to consider how your mindset and lifestyle is either working for you or against you?
If you answer yes to any question keep reading. No one likes to hear that they are wasteful. It has a negative connotation, still a wise man once said, if I never tell you, then you’ll never know. And that is the case for some of us today. We simply don’t know what we don’t know. We did not have anyone in our life to point it out to us or show us a better way to think or act. But, once we know better, we ought to do better. And that’s my goal for us all – to do and be better because stronger and wiser we can go further more effectively and efficiently and have resources and our lifestyle work for us.
As you think about dating, I want you to think about time, the way you manage your time, and the things you spend your time and money on during the dating process. Why? Well, because again, wastefulness can impact all areas of our lives, especially if we are not carefully examining and seeking not to be wasteful. Time wise, I want you to think about the conversations you have or not. You see if you are having conversations that more than not leave you to a path of nowhere fast, I challenge you to ask yourself if you are really dating someone?
Because I’ve said this once, and I’ll say it again, the purpose of dating is to gather information and time my friend is a valuable intangible resource you just can’t get back once it’s gone. So, if you are dating someone and months or even years later you have no factual information about if you are compatible with that person, if that person complements your life, and if that person is a person you could and want to spend the rest of your life with, again what are you doing – being wasteful! And that is something that you need to stop, and ask yourself why are you willing to waste your time when you know you don’t have the ability to go back and give yourself more life to live.
The same for your money. Yes, dating requires a financial expense at times. Still, are you spending your money during dating to seem as though you have more than what you do? It is to present a certain image to the other person that they should value you by what you have instead of who you are? Think – are you wastefully spending money and have nothing to show for it? If so, let’s focus on your mindset. I can’t ascribe a value to you that you must accept as fact. Your thoughts about who you are, what you are, and why you are valuable starts with you.
So, no matter who you are or what your financial situation looks like your value is truly determined by how you see you! What words and thoughts come to mind when you think about yourself and do you convey those words as habits? Habits, you know, habits are not always a bad thing. Too often when people speak about habits, we can see having habits as negative, but we all have habits. It’s just that some of us have habits that work for us better than others, or better in certain areas of our life. That’s why no one outside of you can demand what your habits should be.
You need to know you and the lifestyle that you want to lead and live. Because I can make all the suggestions in the world, but until you see your habits as things that need improvement you will continue to repeat them. I say if your habits are working for you in a strong productive way bringing you what you desire keep pressing on. On the other hand, if not, well, you know you need to make changes in the areas you’re not pleased with, so you can live out the lifestyle with results you desire.
And lifestyle is again a matter of choice. That’s right – back to you and what you decide to do with the people in your life and the places you decide to spend your time at. In life, there’s so much accountability and responsibility that starts and ends with us and that’s why self-reflection should be at the fore front of our minds daily. We ought not want to get to a place where we feel like we’ve got it all together and have no room in any area to grow and evolve. Because if that’s where we are, we’ll never seek to improve because we don’t believe there is a reason to do so.
Now, as it relates to the people and places in your life, do they cause you to be wasteful? Yes, people and places can be a trigger for waste. Think – when you go to that certain bar or even upscale restaurant do you find yourself being wasteful? Or maybe when you hang out with that one particular person, do you find yourself being wasteful with your time, mindset, or money, to mirror their habits? If we’re honest there are some people who are toxic for us to be around, and some places we know we shouldn’t go to.
And while we can’t totally avoid toxic people and places, we should strive to not voluntarily be a trashcan or mindlessly live our life following someone’s poor lifestyle choices. Challenging? Sure, it is, especially depending on where your evaluation of you shows you that you are. But, is it possible to improve? Most definitely, and “if you want to get somewhere, you’ve got to get moving to go somewhere realizing that going somewhere requires productive daily choices that positively help you grow and evolve into a better version of you!”
~ Coach Sam
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