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Betrayal of Innocence

The FBI reports that the National Institute for Mental Health found that 1% - 10% of victims ever tell that they were abused.

* The most common ages for children when sexual abuse occurs are between 8 and 12

* More than 90% of all sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator

* Almost 50% of offenders are household members and 38% are already acquaintances of the victims

* The average serial molestor has between 360 – 380 victims in his lifetime

* Counselors working in the area of addiction support the concept that childhood sexual and physical abuse increases the chance of a substance abuse disorder

* Van Wormer and Davis state that childhood sexual abuse is the best predictor of female alcohol dependence and that drug use medicates the depression and low self-esteem that result from the abuse

* The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) states that childhood symptoms to look for in substance-abusing clients include: depression, dissociative responses, aggressive behavior, poor parental relationship(s), difficulty trusting others, extreme passivity, passive-aggressive behavior, inappropriate age/sexual formation, blackout time frames, excessive nightmares or fears (fear of the dark, need for doors to be locked etc.)

* The family characteristics identified in substance-abusing clients involve substance abuse (parents), battering, child protective service involvement, foster care/relative placement, severe discipline, trauma from separation and loss.

TRANSPARENT MOMENT: The odds appear to be stacked against children like myself who have a shaky start in life and the consequences can last for a lifetime if intervention is not attempted, effective, and successful. I was molested for the first time at age 3 by a 18 year old man. Statistically speaking, 3 is extremely premature in light of the typical age range of 8 – 12 as previously stated. I found myself even as I grew older in fear of being alone in a room with any man after that early traumatic childhood experience. When fear begins to set in during childhood as a result of experiencing sexual abuse severe anxiety and phobias make their way to the scene. Some examples are fear of the unknown, fear of it happening again, fear of telling what happened, fear of not being believed, fear of others finding out, fear of not being  fear that they will be blamed for are in some way responsible for causing the sexual abuse. Fear brings with it torment because the mind of a fearful individual is all over the place and in many cases paranoid of what could, should, and would happen. Sustained fear has an adverse affect on daily functioning and mental health. Simply put, fear  is (F)alse (E)vidence (A)ppearing (R)eal. Perception is reality. Fear is the polar opposite of Faith. In order to live and walk by faith and not by sight we must confront and conquer our fear(s).

Scripture Reference: 1 John 4:18 (KJV) 📖 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

Habakkuk 2:4 (KJV) 📖 Behold, his soul which is lifted up is not upright in him: but the just shall live by his faith.

2 Corinthians 5:7 (KJV) 📖 (For we walk by faith, not by sight:)

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