Dating yourself

What? Why would you say date yourself?  Not only does it make for a great conversation starter, but it invokes a good feeling. Think about it. No one knows you better than you! Only you know all of the little things that make you feel good about yourself. Why? You get to be 100% genuine with yourself !
 When we are in relationships we have learned to put other’s happiness before ours. We learned to put our needs to be respected on the back burner. We learned how to avoid all the red flags of another person’s behavior. Just to say that we are in a relationship. Yuck!

When you date yourself , you don’t give yourself a pass on anything. . Actually we are harder on ourselves than others. We were trained to put ourselves down. Please don’t anymore. Speak positive over your life! Learn to  give yourself a lot of TLC, just because.

You should tell yourself , I love you daily! Not wait on someone else to tell you.

You need to spend time getting to know what your standards are.

What are your non-negotiables?

You should take yourself to the mall. Not only to shop but to get to know what you like and don’t like.

Since I have started spending time with myself, I realize that I  was settling for a lot of things I didn’t want. 
As I spend time with myself, I realize the value of boundaries.  
I realize the value of not being a NICE doormat. Being nice does not equal to you having what you want. Sometimes it allows you to be walked on for no reason.

As I date myself, I find that I don’t like everything. Nor should I. As I date myself, I find I am a lot pickier than I thought.  I am no longer seeking validation or approval from outside of myself. What I know for sure, my opinion and beliefs matter to me. 

Written on August 2nd 2020 by Sophie Wells

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