They’re fine, they’re intelligent, they’re gorgeous/handsome, they’re this that and the other. So what? That doesn’t mean they get to come at you how they please. They can come correct or they can step.
People do what you allow. You reinforce behavior with your presence. If you’re seeing or hearing something you don’t like SPEAK UP! You can’t be mad at your treatment when you signed up for it.
When you first see a problem address it. Don’t let it grow and don’t wait to see if “it’ll resolve itself.” It didn’t make itself so it’s not going to stop itself. You are responsible for what stays in your life. Make the necessary adjustments.