Expectations are fundamental and help us maintain boundaries from people we meet, family, friends, and loved ones. Typical employers expect their employees to demonstrate positive attitudes, dependability, continual learning, initiative and cooperation for their businesses to thrive. Fortunately I have high expectations of myself and others; unfortunately creating healthy boundaries that honor is problematic.
Let’s look at expectations and boundaries, is it the same thing? Did the egg or chicken come first? Expectations is a belief that someone will or should achieve something and a boundary is a limit of a subject or sphere of activity. By definition neither is the same however both govern one another i.e. setting a boundary for yourself implies expecting the people in your life to respect and act within the limits? Respect and limitations are null and void when you don’t uphold or take action to maintain your peace.
My struggles with boundaries originate from little self-value while my outer demeanor screams HAIL THE QUEEN! These two dichotomies cant coexist with each other and coming off the heels of a painful lesson in early 2019, I am continuing to take steps in give less f**** and a reminder that I come first! Yes I will and Yes we can; how does this short read on “expectations” resonate with you and relationships dear to you? Is there room to establish healthy boundaries or deliver notices of contract nonrenewal to people who just didn’t make the cut? Keep evolving!
