Dysfunctional famILY

Welcome back, 

My last post I began a discussion about creating boundaries for relationships in your life. This one is all about families.

How you define your family says a lot about your experience. When you think about your family you may begin reminiscing happy memories. However if your mind travels to a negative place it may be harder to see family positivity. Often family teaches us the most about relationships, bonds and forgiveness. 

As a child, much of your life is impacted by those who were your caretakers. Your primary caretaker molded you from the journey of child to adult. Even if this relationship was filled love you may still have experienced trauma.

Trauma is the aftermath of harmful interactions we experience. Unresolved trauma creates a build up of emotions within the body that lead to anger, resentment and sadness.  Working through those emotions helps you heal and begin to experience life in a new way. 

Healing starts when we find ourselves in an evaluation state. We have experienced enough to see patterns of behavior we want to see more or less of. This may be the best time to begin understanding how the dynamic of family helped and hindered you. The goal is not to blame anyone but to organize your thoughts so that you know how to interact better with your family in the future.

Healing requires discussions about the journey from childhood to adult. Healing allows you the opportunity to release some the tension that builds up in your body. When an individual decides they want help, a therapist, life coach, pastors or educators can be viable resource. 

I could talk on an on about healing and family but for now I’ll leave you with this quote…

Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means it no longer controls our lives. 



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