Around this time last year, I was ghosted by someone whom I thought was “the one.” We never once argued and it was not a “friends with benefits” relationship either. I thought it was going somewhere. We dated for six months, and HE was the one who initiated conversations about taking me to his hometown to visit his family for Thanksgiving. I also had an opportunity to meet his kids (he had two) and they were so precious.
But, out of nowhere, he ghosted me. One missed call turned into three, I texted him a few times (he ignored, of course), and I thought about “popping up” at his place (but, I came to my senses). I won’t lie…my feelings were hurt. I had NO idea why he just up and ghosted me like that. But, instead of staying stuck in my feelings, I bossed up. I went on an intentional 9-month dating fast, started my LLC, hired a personal trainer, and a business coach. As a result, I lost 10 inches from my body, paid off credit cards, and business is great. In hindsight, I guess I needed that heartbreak to focus.
If you’re reading this and have experienced getting ghosted, understand it’s a blessing. That person was not meant for you anyway. Count it all joy. Find the strength to use your pain as fuel to discover your purpose. Ghosting hurts, but what hurts even more is going through life and not operating in your purpose.
Peace and Blessings,
Jerra Latrice
