Scripture: “Do not call to mind the former things, or ponder things of the past. Behold, I will do something new. Now it will spring forth; Will you not be aware of it? I will even make a roadway in the wilderness, Rivers in the desert.”
– Isaiah 43:18-19
Quote: “One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether it’s guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.”
-Quote from Lifehack
Story: In May 2020, my mom had a terrible pain in her side. She went to the ER in the middle of the night and found out it was her gallbladder. After the scans, my mom also received the news of a mass found in one of her kidneys. Two weeks later, my mom had the kidney and gallbladder removed one after another. I went home to be with my dad and to help take care of my mom while recovering at home. After two weeks, my mom’s recovery started to improve and she was finally able to have some sleep laying down in her bed and not on the chair out in the living room. During her recovery she received an abundance of love and care.
Moral of the Story: If my mom ignored the pain on her side, later… that mass would have increased in size and turned into Stage 4 Cancer.
Side Note: Can we acknowledge the fact about how amazing our God is. God allowed my mom the experience the pain in her gallbladder in order for the mass in the kidney to be found in its early stage. The mass was removed and there was no trace of it thereafter. Sometimes, God lets us experience pain in order to save our lives later.
Lesson: My mom did not ignore the pain. She did not let it continue to bother her. She did not allow it to take control. She took control of it. Some… or most of us… allow the pain to grow into emotional and spiritual cancer. We allow it to fester into an immovable mass that takes over our hearts. We allow the mass to form quietly until we later feel an excruciating pain that forces us to get it checked out. We now have been diagnosed with severe depression. We now have gained an insurmountable amount of weight to cover up our pain that is eating us on the inside. We have now contracted an STI because we allowed ourselves to be touched in order to feel accepted and loved.
Letting go means to get rid of whatever is distracting you from God’s will for you. Letting go means to ask for strength to remove those painful thoughts that have made you exhausted when waking up in the morning. God does not want us to live in pain, but he does allow it for a time in order for us to wake up! Wake up from the coma we have allowed ourselves to let come over us.
That’s right. Do not listen to the enemy. He wants us to stay in the dark while making us believe there is no light at the end of the tunnel. The thing is… the light has always been there. We just have had our eyes closed. There may have been a comfort when our eyes were closed. Maybe… it’s easier. Maybe… it gives us an excuse. Maybe… we can run into the wall and hit our head and not have to see the blue and black bruise that has developed.
This is the time to LET GO! Do not let that pain in your past, whether it be sexual assault, mental abuse from your parents, kids calling you “fat” or “stupid”, that ex that said, “I do not love you when I am mad at you” lend yourself to believe that love is not real and only deserved when you make people happy, or even those high expectations you or others have set for yourself… were not achieved.
Let us remember… God is in control. Read the scripture above again. “Behold, I will do something new!!” Allow God to do something new for you! Do not let silence become Stage 4 Cancer.
Last Point: We cannot control what others do to us. We can control how we respond.
God provided the key. Now it is your turn to use it.
What Now?: First, pray. Pray to our Father in Heaven through Jesus Christ. Ask Him for forgiveness for holding on to your past and to guide you through this next chapter in your book. The previous chapters are closed for a reason. The story will continue, but only God’s way. Second, if you need to seek a therapist, relationship coach, life coach, pastor, Celebrate Recovery, etc. DO IT! Yes, God is here to help us and He also wants us to seek wise counsel. Not everyone will be a fit to help you on this journey. Find someone who suits you and your goal to recover.