You may never completely get over all your resentment or bitterness about your breakup, but what you can do is remind yourself that they are your issues, not your child’s. Be determined to keep your issues with your ex away from your children at all times, and never use your children as messengers! The children, no matter the age, should never know how their other parent did you wrong. They are your child, not your counselor or your friend! Setting boundaries and using tools to be able to communicate directly with the other adult involved is key. Never say negative things about your ex to your children or even when they are in ear shot. Speaking negatively about their parent can be seen by the child as a reflection of how you feel about them as well. Your child has a right to a healthy and loving relationship with their other parent that is free of your negative influence. Remember to keep the focus on your children and always set out to make memories, not mayhem!
-Miss Kris
