My Healing Journey

This is the beginning of my blog series that focuses on self-love healing journey for millennial mothers.

This is my introduction to my self-love/ healing journey.

Three decades of trauma.

Neglect and Abandonment goes hand and hand.

Childhood trauma

Childhood issues

Childhood family problems

Fatherless issues

Fast forward, 10 years of healing.

I started my healing process at 22 years old when I was introduced to psychotherapy.  Therapy at times was effective, and therapy at times didn’t feel as effective.  Sometimes, I feel like it was a waste of time, energy and money. LOL

Moving forward, I’m 32 years old, approaching 33 years old.

Since I was 22 years old, I’ve met with about ten different therapist at different stages in my life, for different reasons.

A combination of professionals from different walks of life, different genders and races. From Licensed Clinical Social Workers (LCSW’s), Marriage Family Therapists (MFT’s) , Interns to Doctors of Philosophy (PHD’s).

I actually like some of my former therapists.

I remember one particular therapist. I remember going into therapy and walking into our first session like “Nope, I am not doing this today.

I am so sorry, but you can not help me.

Where are you from?

Where were you raised?

I am Black . I am African American.

And, I grew up in all urban communities.

Outside of that, I know for sure you can’t help me.”

During my referral process and research, I am very clear and vocal that I strongly prefer a Black/ African American therapist.

Even if they don’t identify with my struggle, at least they look like me.

So I say all this to say:

Yo girl, yo sis, yo sister friend.

Been through a lot , and when I say a lot. ALOT with a Capital A.L.O.T.

And it’s been a long journey of self-love and self-healing.

The pain is real. And, I have to acknowledge that again.  Pain is Real.

My next blog, I will discuss pain in more details.  

Visit our website at and book a session with me today to start your self-care and self -love journey. And let’s accomplish all your goals and dreams together.


Team work make the dream work.


Sis, Continue to be D.O.P. E (Determined, Optimistic, Phenomenal, and Elegant)


Your Sister,

Ms. Barbara A. Bell, MSW

Certified Life Coach/Author Coaching/Speaker/Trainer/Author

D.O.P.E Millennial Mothers Founder



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