REAL Friendship or Nah?

I've learned that many people don't know how to use the word "friend". Everybody is not your friend 💯🤦🏾‍♀️. Not the person you exchange 7 words with at work or even the person you've hung out with a few times. Friendship is so much more than that and we have to assign the term only to those who've earned it. This is how you maintain healthy balance, boundaries and relationships.

Having friends is a beautiful thing and we all need friendships, after all, God said it isn’t good for us to be alone, right? Well, yes he said that but He did not mean for us to connect ourselves to just ANYBODY. Unfortunately, many of us end up hurt and feeling alone because we have labeled people as “friend” when they haven’t even earned the title.

Just because someone smiles and laughs with you at work does not mean they’re your friend. You sitting next to someone in class and sharing a few giggles does not automatically make them your friend! I don’t care if they’ve even been to your house and y’all hung out a couple of times…NOT  YOUR  FRIEND!

You have to really assess a person’s character, thoughts, goals, mission, availability, stability, mindset and compatibility, and everything before you begin to consider them for friendship status. Now, I know it often happens organically but don’t be afraid to have a conversation about the emerging friendship and make sure you’re both on the same page. I mean, it’s pretty silly to befriend a person who hasn’t befriended you. At the end of the day, this is a RELATIONSHIP and just like any other relationship, you want to be fully aware of what you’re getting into.

In today’s society, the word “friend” is thrown around as casually as the word “love” has begun to be but there are real consequences to not putting them into perspective.

You’re so amazing and so full of purpose, don’t make room in your life for people who will subtract instead of impact.

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