Break ups are hard, we all know that, but it’s important to remember to process your energy correctly once the relationship is over. Break ups can make us vengeful, depressed, angry; so many emotions, but its not the end of the world. Ladies understand when you have to put so much energy into a relationship that you are tired in all aspects, Its not worth it! Keep your sanity, keep your peace. If you are a good person, things will work out in your favor. What you put out into this world, is what you will ultimately get back.
I know it’s hard to just move on, but change is what will bring you to healing. When you change the way you think, you change the way you feel. When you feel better, you attitude changes. So, ladies let’s throw out the “break up” playlist (yes, I know you have one) with all the sad love songs and change our perspective. It’s okay to acknowledge your feelings, because we absolutely don’t want to pretend we are okay when we are not, but I want to encourage you not to stay in that dark place. “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning” (Psalms 30:5) If you truly want to heal, we cannot get stuck in our sadness. We cannot keep re-living the moments that hurt us or playing back the arguments in our head to figure what we could of or should of said in the moment.
If we have to look back at the relationship, we need to be looking at it to figure out what we can learn from it. If you were wrong, accept that and work on that area of your character. If it was not your fault, focus on strengthening your standards so you can be comfortable in knowing what you deserve. Ladies this is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. Each and everyday we have to wake up in expectation that we want to be better than we were yesterday. We may not be able to visualize better days now but have faith that it will happen. “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” (Hebrews 11:1)
So my suggestion to you is to deal with your emotions, be honest about how you feel. Strategize a plan to make yourself whole again. Reflect and mediate on how you are going to move forward and what that looks like for you. Lastly, be positive! Like I said, DELETE THE “BREAKUP” PLAYLIST! It will not be productive in your journey to heal, trust me, its only going to delay the process. Its also important you take your time with it. Do not try to run to someone else to fix you, YOU need to fix YOU. Remember these things and appreciate this time as an opportunity to spend some time with you. It’s worth it to be healed ladies, invest in you!