Did you know you have the full capacity to really create a life you love? It took me a while to get to this point myself. But once I made the change it was monumental.
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I had the idea of just accepting the cards I was dealt and letting them play for me. Not really understanding and strategizing how I can play the cards.
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I’ve experienced a lot of pain growing especially during those middle school and highschool years. The amount of bullying I received was ridiculous and looking back now. I internalized so much and that began to run my life.
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I was bullied for my weight. Which caused me to become obsessed with trying to lose it. My weight has gone up and down so many times throughout the years. And the only reason I was losing weight was to one up the haters.. So it was never really for me. Which is why I kept gaining it back.
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I had to change my mindset and figure out what I wanted. This started with me becoming aware of my thoughts and my beliefs. Your thoughts are really everything. They shape your mindset and overall belief system. If you have negative thoughts, your beliefs will follow. And it’s the same for positive thoughts as well.
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I began to trick my brain. I Basically became positive Patty. I started with affirmations and devotionals really setting my day with a good foundation to start on.
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Another great tactic was to align myself with my future self. I was laying the correct foundation for where I wanted to be in the future.
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Followed ditching the negative self talk. This one was a bit hard. I’m not gonna even lie. I had to replace negative talk with positive talk. As well as negative thinking sometimes you have to check it out loud. I like to think of my negative thoughts to come from Satan himself. So I would speak back with scripture and not even give him the satisfaction and then continue to affirm myself when needed.
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Another great tactic that got me to the point of happiness was really asking myself the questions that needed to be asked. I was going through the motions of life but not the life that I wanted. So I had to pinpoint what I wanted/ needed.
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So if you ask yourself “Why am I so unhappy?” then your brain will look for reasons why you’re always unhappy. But, if you ask “How can I be happier?” then your brain will naturally come up with ideas for you to create happiness in your life.
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Here are a few questions I began to ask myself.
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What risk would you take if you knew you could not fail?
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What is your greatest strength? Have any of your recent actions demonstrated this strength?
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What are the top five things you cherish in your life?
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Why do we do things we dislike and like the things we never seem to do?
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What are you avoiding?
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What is the one job/cause/activity that could get you out of bed happily for the rest of your life? Are you doing it now?
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When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?
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Asking yourself questions allows you to dive deeper, past the surface level answers, to the ones that’ll produce the most results.
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These are a few mindset hacks that helped me begin to create a life I love. Stay tuned for part 2 of this series.
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XOXO
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Sierra Simone’
