The #1 problem women have when dating is looking for a man to marry instead of a husband that will cover them.
Many women think relationships are all about “finding a man,” but finding a man is quite easy, husbands however are rare finds.
So, it’s important to know who you are in Christ first because remember He orders our steps and He will lead you to the husband at the right place and time.
However, your needs, wants, desire, flesh and lust can lead you to a man that is playing the role as husband but will:
- String you along for multiple years and not marry you
- Has no problem taking it slow in growing your relationship spiritually and emotionally, but will have no problem speeding the relationship up in the physical
- Play hot and cold, move in and out of your life and possibly drain you emotionally, financially, and physically
Husbands are submitted to Christ and if you mistake a man for a husband you basically signing yourself up for trauma because scripture says: Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble Is like a bad tooth and a foot out of joint. (Proverbs 25:19) unfaithfulness to God definitely means unfaithfulness to you.
Stop looking for a man to marry but a husband that can cover you
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,
A man that covers you will basically be the representation of Christ in your life (Giving you his best self and selflessly gives). When a man covers you, the two of you grow together spiritually the man can lead you in prayer and you two can become intimate together.
My definition of intimacy– praying, praising and worshiping God together
I go into details more on this in my video: You can not mother a man and make him the man you want him to be: Christian Dating Advice on YouTube
And I talk about this more in Chapter 1 of my book The Master Reset-A girl’s ultimate guide to freeing up space on her spiritual hard drive available here on Amazon.
Here’s an excerpt from the book:
What A Godly Husband Looks Like:
The man who has the substance of a husband imitates Godliness. He follows the example of Jesus. A man totally surrendered to God–who seeks God in all he does and has conquered sexual temptation. He respects God, and he doesn’t disrespect women or his body by giving in to fornication. This man is willing and ready to commit to one woman and changes the last name of the woman he finds as his wife to his. After marrying his good thing, this man is now legal to receive all the benefits that go along with having a wife.