Talking about the relationship will help to bring a different perspective to things because let’s face it, it’s not called a ‘breakup’ because it is working well.
Being in love or being in like-a-lot can blur things, hide things and dress things up, sometimes at the cost of clarity about what’s going on. When you talk about the relationship from a more distant perspective, there will be a level of insight that will throw itself at your feet.
Talking helps to construct a story of the relationship that gives meaning to the experience – including the experience of the relationship, the breakup, and perhaps most importantly for healing. As well as being an emotional release, talking from a position of strength, also encourages a fresh perspective and new insights. This might involve finding the lessons, the learning, and reframing the experience as, an ending, rather than a rejection.
Topics included in my Areas of Expertise:
Break-up / Divorce / Married but Separated
Healing from toxic Relationships