The power of friendships

Holidays are a big deal in America, serving as a way of tradition. Have you heard the famous Christmas song that goes like this: “Making a list, checking it twice, gonna find out who’s naughty or nice, Santa Clause is coming to town.”?

How did a fictitious pop culture phenomena have standards on whom to distribute toys for — pulling out a long list that resembles a scroll with every child in the world name on it? A plump guy will come down the chimney in his bright red suit and determine if you will receive a gift under the tree. The deciding factor will be whether or not you have been naughty or nice. This holly jolly concept is essentially the theme of the first way to recognize high character. We need to check the company we keep. That’s right . . . taking a good look at the hearts and minds of those closest to you.

When taking a look at our circle, we do not judge people to deem if they are “good” or “bad”; that is God’s job. That is a job that surpasses our qualifications. When assessing the character of another person, we are meeting people where they are. Taking the situation as it is. After we have done that, you can see whether it is a fit for our lives. Is what this person represents a good match for where I am trying to go with my life? Is their way of thinking in alignment with things that I believe? Are you keeping so-called friends around when they are just liabilities?

We need to have standards to re-evaluate the people we are closest to in our lives. For example, whether they are friends, love interests, coworkers, neighbors, mentors, or business partners. There needs to be a list written down, or in our minds, that this person has to checkboxes, or you may have to get some distance. You will have to send warm wishes and turn them away from your life. With the ability to recognize high character, you are also rejecting those who are not of substance. In doing so, you limit peoples’ access to your life who do not need to be there.

Self-awareness is defined as conscious knowledge of one’s character, feelings, motives, and desires. Know who you are. Be mindful of the qualities that you bring to the table. Analyze how the people in your inner circle are either uplifting you or hindering you. From one human being to the next, recognize that you are no better or worse than the people that you spend the most time alongside. In the journey of strengthening your personality traits, the people around you daily have a significant impact on your life.

To elevate your character, you have to let go of people operating on a low vibration. It would be best if you were around those with good vibes regularly so that you may have the mirroring effect. Receive all the good energy that the universe has to offer. Are you around people that speak life into you? Do they say motivating words while you are around? Are they pushing you to be your highest self?

An author by the name of Jen Sincero says, “The people you surround yourself with are excellent mirrors for who you are and how much, or how little, you love yourself.” Mind-blowing, right? She goes on to say this:

We’re all attracted to, as well as turned off by, various things about other people. And the things that stand out the most to us are the things that remind us about the most of ourselves. This is because other people are like mirrors for us: If somebody bugs you, you’re projecting onto them something that you don’t like about yourself, and if you think they’re awesome, they’re reflecting something that you see in yourself that you like (even if it’s not developed in you yet).

What is a fair baseline use? What are the qualities to look for in people? What are those traits that will sustain high character? Have you settled around low vibration people to avoid loneliness?


-Excerpt from book High Character, By Jess Taylor-

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