If I had to give any advice to the woman who posted this on Facebook, I would suggest to her to change her focus. Right now, it seems like she had put being married and or in a relationship on a pedestal and stop living her life. In a nutshell, I would say to this woman:
“Stop focusing on marriage and focus on you,”
I’m sure that when and if she focuses on herself then she may notice things she may want to improve on. For example, I love Tony Gaskin’s concept on maximizing your single season by focusing on the 3 B’s (Brain, Brand, and Body) and if she can honestly say she has the 3 B’s in check, then she should focus on strengthening her relationship with God and focus on scriptures about His promises such as:
Scriptures to meditate on
- Even when there was no reason for hope, Abraham kept hoping—believing that he would become the father of many nations. For God had said to him, “That’s how many descendants you will have!” (New Living Translation, Rom. 4:18)
- It was by faith that even Sarah was able to have a child, though she was barren and was too old. She believed that God would keep his promise. (New Living Translation, Heb. 11:11)
- Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise. (New Living Translation, Heb.10:23)
- but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. (New International Version, Isa. 40:31 NIV)
- Jesus said to him, “If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.” (New King James Version, Mark 9:23)
- For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. (New King James Version, Jer. 29:11)
- Is anything too hard for the LORD? At the appointed time I will return to you, according to the time of life, and Sarah shall have a son.” (New King James Version, Gen. 18:14 )
Focusing on scriptures is important because throughout most of our day we most likely consume a steady stream of news, media, tweets, Instagram feeds, radio, newspaper, etc., and consuming this stuff can sometimes knock God’s Word out of place. Before you read the statistic on this many people are single over the age of whatever, you had God’s Word in your heart but now that statistic may have taken residence in your heart instead, it’s time to move everything that’s against the knowledge of God (2 Corinthians 10:5 ) out of your heart and mind and meditate on scriptures (reading it, visualizing it, speaking it, singing it) so it can become one with you.
Focus on what you do have and not what you don’t
Overall it’s always good to remember that God is good! If you are married God is good and if you are single God is good. Even if God doesn’t bless you with a husband, God is good and when He does bless you with a husband, God is good. When you get the job, God is also good and when the job you applied to doesn’t hire you God is still good. God is good when the economy is down, and God is good when the economy is booming.
I believe many of us at times like the woman who made the post forgets that we serve God and He doesn’t serve us. Therefore despite our current relationship status,, rich or poor, black or white we all still have a purpose to fulfill and reason for living, we shouldn’t use the precious time God has allotted each of us to focus on things we don’t have.
