PEXELS ALEX GREEN F ADABF

Why domestic violence isn’t always physical

I want women to know that every time you deal with a person that talks down to you or belittles you, that's a slap, a punch, or a kick to your spirit and you need to walk away immediately. Although no one may see the scars on the outside from the mental abuse you endure, your heart however bears the bruising, and God is not pleased.

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I had to check my self-righteousness at the door when I heard the stories of women being physically abused in relationships. I thought “if a man hits me that’s it, I’m done, I’m walking away, there’s no way I would stay,” and a part of me does believe that would be the case, however, I learned that although I would hope I’d walk away, I can empathize with the women who may find it difficult to walk away and leave a physically abusive relationship.

I realized that every time I tolerated disrespect in a relationship it was like a physical assault on my spirit keeping me paralyzed from moving on and leaving that relationship.

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I’m here to let women know if they’ve ever tolerated or accepted the following in a relationship, they too have been physically abused, maybe not with black eyes or bruises to the lips, but damage to the heart and trauma to the soul if they’ve endured in a relationship from their partner:

  • Infidelity multiple times
  • Belittling (put-downs, verbal insults)
  • Comparisons to other women
  • Lies/not keeping his word
  • Inconsistent behavior (hot and cold treatment)

Therefore, I believe domestic violence isn’t always physical, but it can also be mental and spiritual. As I watched footage of other professional athletes like Ray Rice get caught on camera physically assaulting their significant others I thought to myself “I can’t judge, these women are being hit on physically, but don’t forget about the mental beating you’ve endured by entertaining men that made you feel like you weren’t good enough or put you down.”

“Domestic violence isn’t always physical but if you’re dealing with someone that is trying to break your spirit with their words the scars are just left on your heart instead of your body,” –Synquette Wilks

I want women to know that every time you deal with a person that talks down to you or belittles you, that’s a slap, a punch, or a kick to your spirit and you need to walk away immediately. Although no one may see the scars on the outside from the mental abuse you endure, your heart however bears the bruising, and God is not pleased.

Remember we are all God’s children and Jesus came so that we can have life and have it more abundantly, the more life includes you being treated with honor and respect and never tolerating or accepting violence or hurt of any kind, albeit physical, mental, and or spiritual.

Work on yourself and love yourself and always know you have the right to leave the table when respect is no longer being served.

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