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Why men have side chicks

The bar is so low for men with dating women that we as women must get our standards back up. Everyone’s standards may look different, but at least have some and be uncompromising with having your needs met. If it doesn’t feel right, leave it alone. If it makes little sense, don’t force it to, just let it go.

I believe men can juggle multiple women all at one time while dating and in relationships because women are making it painfully easy for men to date them. Don’t be so happy to have a man in your life instead of making him show up as a man in your life by dating you consistently, daily communications and both growing with each other spiritually, mentally, and emotionally.

The problem with being too nice

Instead of being more demanding, women are over accommodating and accept the bare minimum when dating men. I say this because after watching The Oprah Winfrey Network’s new show The Belle Collective; I realized this was the case when one of the main character’s son had 3 children under the age of 1 with 3 different women. That let me know that none of the women he dated really required much of him because if at least one of them didn’t he wouldn’t be able to have other children. I also say all this because we have this side piece culture and I believe a side chick wouldn’t exist if the main chick demanded more from the man that’s pursuing her.

I instantly thought how we as women set the bar so low when dating that men have extra time and energy to fool with other women on the side.

Synquette K. Wilks

So #standardsmatter, so don’t allow men just to come in and out of your life. Either he’s actively perusing you or you leave him alone, either he’s consistently staying in contact with you or you bounce, either he’s taking you out on weekends consistently and dating you throughout the week or you move on.

The bar is so low for men with dating women that we as women must get our standards back up. Everyone’s standards may look different, but at least have some and be uncompromising with having your needs met. If it doesn’t feel right, leave it alone. If it makes little sense, don’t force it to, just let it go.

I believe instead of being super accommodating and making it easier for the man to date you, don’t be afraid to speak up and allow the man to court you, by requiring:

  • Prime time dating time (Outside dates within the week and especially Friday-Sunday and major holidays)
  • Daily phone conversations (stop with all the texting and get on the phone)
  • Consistent growth within the courtship/relationship

Make it hard for him to have the energy to date other women by being demanding

I’ve now warned you. If you see this young man out on the street and he tries to date you, don’t become baby momma number 4 unless you have a ring on your finger require him and the other men you run into to date you properly. You are a full-time job honey, not a part-time gig, so you need you 40 hours, overtime, benefits, retirement, and 401k energy when a man tries to date you.

Listen to this while you clean: Why men have side chicks, How to not be his 4th baby mom

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